I will be just who I will be, and though it took me a number of years to make the journey to this place, At long last love myself personally simply the means I’m. Really don’t desire to be a work in progress or some man’s rough draft. I’d like a person who’s no need to transform me personally because the guy really wants me personally for me.  If you don’t, don’t bother.

1. 
   You shouldn’t be happy with me if you don’t really love me personally.
   
   If this isn’t correct, I don’t desire to
   waste my time
   . Should you decide settle for an union that isn’t just what you would like, you are in addition pressuring us to accept a man who doesn’t really love me. That is not reasonable to either people. I am holding-out for true love, for some guy just who just can’t get sufficient personally, and that I won’t settle for something below that.
2. 
   I would rather end up being by yourself than modification who I am for a guy.
   
   I love my self just the way Im so in retrospect I do believe that We need a man which sees exactly what a catch i’m also. I’m not a female which requires a person’s like to make me personally be ok with me. I don’t need certainly to alter just who I am just to land men and so I can feel worthy in daily life. I’d fairly you need to be without any help.
3. 
   Should you decide really like myself, after that all the rest of it comes naturally.
   
   When a connection is right, everything drops into spot with no type of manipulation. We won’t have to force a link because we’re kindred spirits already. You will not should make an effort to change myself since you already in this way version of me, weaknesses and all sorts of. The union will progress obviously because we’ll experience the primary thing — real and real love for each other. If this doesn’t take place, it isn’t really right.
4. 
   I am not great — so what?
   
   Nobody’s best — and honestly, i’dn’t previously wish to be. My flaws are the thing that make myself special and unique, and i would like men who are able to learn to love and appreciate that. I am wanting to develop as you each and every day, but I really don’t desire to be perfect. As long as i am the most effective form of myself i could end up being, i am delighted.
5. 
   Needs one that is all-in.
   
   If you’re not happy beside me as I have always been now, then you’ll definitely usually wish to transform myself and resent me personally with regards to does not take place. Might only carry on after one thing even more, anything I’m able to never provide. You are going to always have one-foot for the union additionally the additional base outside. Really don’t desire to live like that. You’re either all in with me how I am now or we cannot end up being anything more.
6. 
   I am no body’s task.
   
   If I’m your DIY job, I then’ll feel you’re just with myself because you couldn’t get a hold of anybody better or you’re such a narcissist you want to shape me personally in to the girl you have always wanted. That’s honestly all messed up and I also’m maybe not curious. If you’re into improving circumstances, manage yourself initial.
7. 
   Absolutely most likely a female around that’s currently what you would like — get get a hold of their.
   
   If you have to input really “work” to “improve” myself you then’re wasting your own time. You clearly learn regarding the particular girl you desire and I also’m maybe not it. Maybe you should end throwing away some time and get find her.
8. 
   I would like a man who’s beside me for example cause — he enjoys myself.
   
   There could be so many reasons we love both, but you should be collectively because of that love alone. I do not wish men with ulterior motives. If you’re searching for intercourse, a sugar mama, a project to get you to feel like you’ve done your own great deed or simply company, then chances are you’re not the man personally. Be with me as you love me personally and because you dropped the exact individual i will be, perhaps not because you simply wanted somebody, one to love.
9. 
   I won’t date men who doesn’t see me as an equal.
   
   If you should be constantly wanting to transform myself, you demonstrably believe there’s something wrong with me and you’re in position to correct it. Which means you already believe you are much better than me personally, and that I have no need for that BS during my existence. I want the same companion. If I can not have that however’d quite end up being alone.